His Cheerleader

Cheerleaders! Most women hate them, most men love them but we all need them.

Seriously we all need cheerleaders in our lives. Someone who comes along side of us and encourages us, believes in us, stands there with us,when no one else does. When your losing at something in life 54-0 they are still yelling, "________, ________ he's our man if he can't do it nobody can. OUR Cheerleaders!!!

Dogs are sort of silent cheer leaders. They are always there happy to see us. You could have lost your job, and messed up your life completely and they still greet you like your the best thing on 2 legs. I remember when Garrett was having his difficult times in Ukraine with the older Ukrainian boys he would come in and just curl up with our dog cubby. She loved him, she adored him, she was his biggest fan and he knew that. It was his way to recharge.

My husband needs that from me too.
I sadly remember one time, a long time ago. Tom and I were driving somewhere,exactly where now I forget. Anyway we passed a turn and I insisted that it was our turn, he insisted it was not and kept going. He kept going for about 10 more minutes and then said in a sheepish voice. I guess that was the turn back there. He then turned around and went back. I didn't say anything, just something like it's ok were not really late. He looked over at me a few times and I smiled. He then shocked me, he stopped the car, turned to me and said " Hunny thank you so so much for not making me feel like an idiot for not taking that turn!" I said nothing, but I was stabbed, I mean stabbed in the heart.

How many times, I thought, must I have torn this man down or belittled him before about a mistake for him to react now in such a strong way. I was cut to the core. In that silent ride home I promised my self and to God that I would like Proverbs 31:12 says "Bring him good not harm all the days of her life". In that 10 minute silent ride back to the right turn I became Toms cheerleader.

I wanted him to know that I was not going to be the one to tear him down, make him feel small. No infact my new goal was for him to have full confidence in that what ever he did, I would be in his corner, his cheerleader.
Does he still make mistakes? Of course and so do I, but hopefully with Gods help he isn't worried that when he does his wife is going to be his worse critic.

I cringe when ever I hear ladies in large groups talking badly about their husbands. Its ok to share struggles with a close friend, or occasionally share a funny story but mostly we should be characterized by being wives who are boasting about our husbands,cheering for their successes,defending decisions, and building them up.

I daily need Gods help to do this because its so easy to criticize especially when you have control issues like I do. And,God does help me. But, when I do fail God is also there to help me to go and make it right.

TOM, TOM he's my man if he can't do it..NOBODY CAN!!